The lesson: Do not confuse asking for help with insecurity!

Just yesterday I had a big emotional not-quite-a-crisis, not-quite-a-breakdown, but something to that effect because I had to ask for help. I did it in the end, but the process was not an easy one. (I did not handle the situation with love, joy and ease, Louise Hay!)

 The Universe must really want me to learn this lesson. In the aftermath of my “battle” and my purging here with you guys, I found Ria’s comment about no warrior being able to win the war by herself, soothing. This morning, while waiting in the car for the library to open (I pack books away on Thursday mornings as a Friend of Strand Library), I read this:

A warrior balances solitude and dependence.

and then, a few pages further:

The warrior knows that no man is an island.

He cannot fight alone, whatever his plan, he depends on other people. He needs to discuss his strategy, to ask for help, 🙂 and – in moments of relaxation – to have someone with whom he can sit by the fire, someone he can regale with tales of battle.

But he does not allow people to confuse this camaraderie with insecurity. He is transparent in his actions and secretive in his plans.

A warrior of light dances with his companions, but does not place the responsibility for his actions on anyone else.

Obviously, Paulo Coelho wrote his Manual of the Warrior of Light with me in mind. I should let him/his translator know about gender-inclusive language, though. 🙂

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ursula
    Feb 02, 2011 @ 12:52:53

    The lessons we have to learn come allways at the right time… many lessons going unnoticed but how wonderful is it, when we can see what we have to learn…
    Love
    Ursula

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  2. sanette
    Feb 02, 2011 @ 13:11:01

    as eazy as I communicate with people and as much as I see my need for companionship and friends, I too find it difficult to ask for help. we wrongly see independant people as strong. strong people also need others from time to time. this is how humans were designed!

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