Be absolutely sure of nothing

I have a confession to make. I buy Oprah’s O magazine (the SA version) each month for the two (sometimes three) pages written by Martha Beck. These two (sometimes three) pages I then rip out and file away, because you never know, I might need it some day. The rest of the magazine first gathers some dust in a pile and then often end up being given away without having been read.
Martha Beck is my favourite self-help guru. She has this way of reframing my perspective on life jokingly but without being insensible. This month she wrote about 10 misconceptions that most people accept without question. She believes it is worthwhile to unlearn them.
As I don’t want to deprive you of the opportunity to read her article for yourself, I’ll just mention a few things that stood out.

Problems are bad.
Actually problems provide us with an opportunity to change/move on to better things…

Working hard leads to success.
She is of the opinion that play, not work, is the key to success.

Success is the opposite of failure.
We can only succeed if we fail and learn from our failures. She says that we succeed to the degree we try, fail and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well.

It matters what people think of me.
This one can really mess up your mind, because what YOU think people think of and about you, might not be what they’re thinking at all.

If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect.
But remember that good fortune has side effects, just like medications do. Whatever we believe will make us feel good, also have the power to make us feel bad.
She says that to attract something you want, you must become as joyful as you think that thing would make you. The whole point is the emotion, not the thing.

So to wrap things up nicely: Imagine everything. Be absolutely sure of nothing. Only an open mind can learn. 🙂


1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. sanette
    Feb 11, 2011 @ 08:12:28

    loving it, loving it, loving it!


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