Rule #6

Have you heard about Zander’s Rule #6?

You can listen to Benjamin Zander tell the story of Rule #6 here:

 Rule #6 is Don’t take yourself so damn seriously.

This rule can be applied in a multitude of environments and somehow manages to bring a smile to my face and a lightness of heart that is exactly what’s needed for me to cope better in the circumstances. Work getting you down and pulling you in all directions and you’re all stressed out: Don’t take yourself so damn seriously! Family tension, children demanding attention, food not ready for supper, homework, exams, prepared speeches … Don’t take yourself so damn seriously! Sitting in traffic, moving from one lane to the next and just when you’re in the new lane the other one starts moving? Don’t take yourself so damn seriously!

It is as if by confirming this rule helps me get some space between me and the stuff that, in that moment’s mode of thinking, is getting me down.

Taking yourself less seriously might just lead you to finding your energised, inspired and exciting self!

Say what’s wrong so we can fix it!

In school, karate, Taiko, life… we’re usually told what we’re doing wrong so that we can fix it.

My vocal coach (I signed up for some vocal training because of Taiko!) does not operate that way. She tells me what I’m doing – with suitable impressive terminology, of course. But due to past conditioning, I immediately assume that I’m doing something wrong and that she wants me to STOP doing what I’m doing! In the mean time she’s actually complimenting me on what I’m doing!

I’ve read somewhere long ago, that to motivate their worst students, teachers should actually write positive comments about what they did right, so that they could feel good about themselves and then want to improve on the rest.

Oi! Maybe she read that article too… 🙂


I’ve been cleaning up my desks and found some notes I made in August 2009 that slowly simmered and only this year translated into action. 🙂

  • Intent is the very basis of creation: When repeating intentions, you create habits. The more you repeat it, the more likely it is “that the universal consciousness will create the same pattern and manifest the intention in the physical world”. “Intention orchestrates infinite possibilities.”
  • “Very often we fall into ruts in our lives; we maintain the same routines and act in the same manner predicatbly day after day after day. We set our minds on a certain course of action, and simply proceed. How can miracles happen if we march mindlessly, unthinking and unaware, through our lives?”
    I think the quotes came from Deepak Chopra’s Synchro Destiny. My notes are a bit mixed-up.

I found the following notes from The 4-hour work week by Timothy Ferriss gives my “brave self” ammunition to convince the noncouragous me to get my act together! I often don’t do things because I think the timing is not right. He says: “Just do it and correct course along the way” and “Ask for forgiveness, not permission”. People will often give you reasons why you can’t do something, but if you’ve already done it … 🙂

Ferris suggests that we go for the big goals because the level of competition for “realistic” goals are more fierce. Everybody’s going for the realistic goals, but the fishing is best where the fewest go.

Then things that I believe will be helpful during the process of getting the research proposal done:

  1. “Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself.” Why do I compare the weakest part of me with the strongest part of others?
  2. Parkinson’s law is that a task will swell in (perceived) importance and complexity in relation to the time allotted for its completion. The end product of a shorter deadline is almost inevitably of equal/higher quality due to greater focus.
  3. Albert Einstein is rumoured to have said: Reading after a certain age diverts the mind too much from its creative pursuits. Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking.

Fortunately the last quote doesn’t say what the certain age is and it says man, so I’m pretty sure it doesn’t apply to me 100%. 🙂